1:1 COACHING SESSIONS
You are Low Contact or “No Contact Curious.” There are a range of options when it comes to self-protection. You are welcome to explore the path that is right for you through 1:1 coaching sessions.
We’ll experiment with boundaries to learn what kind of relationship is possible. No Contact is a final destination when relationship dynamics become unmanageable. Wherever you land, you are welcome in our community. I’m glad to support you on your journey!
Here are some questions you might be asking:
Is my relative narcissistic?
Do I owe it to them to help?
What if I’m the problem?
What if they can change?
How do I stop feeling guilty?
What boundaries can I set?
These are the areas that we can explore together:
Identifying Red Flags
You’re wondering: Is my relative a narcissist? People say that narcissism is a diagnosis and that you have no right to claim it. According to the latest research by Dr. Ramani:
Narcissism is a personality style that is observable without diagnosis. It is a collection of antagonistic traits including manipulation, scapegoating, exploitation and entitlement. I help you identify red flags so you can feel confident in your assessment. We also explore the difference between narcissistic and emotionally immature characteristics. This information can alleviate guilt and clear doubt from your gut knowing.
Setting Boundaries
Once you identify red flags, it’s time to set boundaries. But we won’t rush to the finish line. They can be so simple at first. For example: Taking a pause in between texts (a time boundary), so you have time to think and feel into what is true for you. We practice the word “no” in low-stakes situations.
For the difficult conversations, I arm you with scripts for liberation. For difficult decisions, we talk through all the possible consequences. If you aren’t used to advocating for yourself, this change can be scary. This is why learning nervous system regulation is the next step.
Cosmic Self-Care
IFS parts work: Do you ever argue with your own thoughts? That’s two parts of you having a disagreement. One part of you is protecting the relationship with your parent and another part wants to break away. Gently we negotiate with these parts to find the right choice for you.
intuitive development: Do you feel stuck and confused because of their gaslighting? I help you ground and tune in, so you can hear your intuition. Using energy healing and guided visualization, you will tap into the truth about your relationship.
nervous system regulation: Most toxic family conflicts aren’t emergencies, even if they feel urgent. We calm your nervous system to help you release feelings of pressure and obligation. I utilize somatic techniques and Brainspotting to help you build your resilience.
Creating a Support System
Your toxic family is not a safe place for your vulnerability. Being in the role of scapegoat has lowered your self-esteem. It is important to seek emotional safety and community outside of your family system.
We identify safe friendships by examining the signs of trustworthiness. We brainstorm to find aligned communities to help you build chosen family. It is important to see your true self reflected back in other peoples’ eyes, to connect to others that relate to your story. It is easier to set boundaries and stick to them when you create a support network. I’d be honored to have you in our community!
DISCLAIMER: Coaching is not therapy. These services are not reimburseable by insurance and don’t include a diagnosis or treatment for mental health symptoms. Even though I am a licensed therapist, I am not more skilled than others offering similar coaching services. I may require that clients be working with a primary therapist if trauma or a mental health diagnosis is present. You can view my coaching contract here for clarification.
Coaching Rates (see Justice Pricing to decide):
Abundant (Tier 3): $250 per session.
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Resourced (Tier 2): $200 per session.
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Community (Tier 1): $150 per session.
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